Freedom from Being a Scapegoat

I bless you with consolation today if you had to be a parent to your parent when you were a child, playing the role of a nurturer, while you yourself needed nurturing, and playing the role of caretaker, while you yourself were in need of care.

I bless you with wholeness if you had to be a scapegoat to your parent when you were a child: the recipient of someone’s wrath…the target of someone’s condemnation…the victim of someone’s irrational behavior and sinful insecurities.

IT IS FOR FREEDOM THAT CHRIST HAS SET US FREE. STAND FIRM, THEN, AND DO NOT LET YOURSELVES BE BURDENED AGAIN BY A YOKE OF SLAVERY
(Galatians 5:1).

Beloved Child, today, I offer you freedom if you, as a child, were punished for a sin that someone else had committed. You did not deserve the harsh punishment.  You deserved to be forgiven, accepted, and comforted.

May you know that a Scapegoat already exists. My name is Jesus Christ.  You are set free to let go of your role as a scapegoat, now.  You do not have to carry the blame for others’ shortcomings anymore. Let Me become your Scapegoat, because it is for freedom that I have set you free: freedom from blame…freedom from guilt…freedom from the responsibility to carry another’s sins.

 Stand firm, then, and do not let yourself be burdened again by this yoke of slavery—the yoke of being a scapegoat.

IN MY ANGUISH I CRIED TO THE LORD, AND HE ANSWERED BY SETTING ME FREE
(Psalm 118:5).

Why do you want to keep your role as a scapegoat? What benefits does this role offer you? Does it diminish your guilt, ease your shame, or remove the condemnation the father-of-lies dumped on you, long ago, as a child?

It is for freedom that Christ came to set you free. But you have an obligation: to surrender the yoke of slavery that has been keeping you in bondage, to the Lord Jesus.  Allow Him to become your only Scapegoat.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, I invite You to become my only Scapegoat, as I release my yoke of slavery to You.

Maintain an Awareness

God sent His own Son, Jesus Christ, to become the NEW MAN Truth in the place of the OLD MAN deception in us.

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Let Go of the Charge

Do you struggle with the thought that nobody understands you…that nobody knows who you are…that nobody understands the way you function?  Do you feel that you are a mystery: inexplicable…baffling…insolvable?

Maybe you were mistreated and misunderstood as a child and given no chance to justify your actions.  Maybe you were left seething with anger and disappointment, believing that you had no defense. Maybe you perceived that there was no way of being released from the charge, because there was no way of setting things right.

THE LORD DOES NOT LOOK AT THE THINGS MAN LOOKS AT. MAN LOOKS AT THE OUTWARD APPEARANCE, BUT THE LORD LOOKS AT THE HEART
(1 Samuel 16:7).

Precious Child, you need to know that I, the Most High, understand you…and also understood you when you were a child.  I, your Perfect Father, do not look at the things man looks at.  Man looks at the outward appearance, but I can see your heart. Be comforted that I know your heart…and I knew your heart when you were a child.  Your Perfect Father never misunderstands and I never misunderstood you when you were a child.

KNOW YE THAT THE LORD HE IS GOD: IT IS HE THAT HATH MADE US, AND NOT WE OURSELVES; WE ARE HIS PEOPLE, AND THE SHEEP OF HIS PASTURE
(Psalm 100:3).

I bless you to be comforted.  The God who made you understands you.  No thought is withheld from Him. You can let go of the charge.

I KNOW THAT THOU CANST DO EVERY THING, AND THAT NO THOUGHT CAN BE WITHHOLDEN FROM THEE
(Job 42:2).

Was there a time during your childhood when you were treated unfairly, because you were not understood? In the meantime, has this caused resentment, fear, and confusion to develop in your heart?

Are you tired of living with the resentment, fear, and confusion that have settled in your heart? Invite God’s Presence and Participation into the painful feeling of being misunderstood. Allow Him to look into your heart…and set things right.

PRAYER: Lord God, how comforting to know that You can see what is in my heart.  How good to know that You know the Truth, even when others misunderstand me. Please come into my heart and set me free from the pain of being misunderstood. Fill me with Your comforting Truth.

Maintain an Awareness

The Bible calls it the OLD MAN. It makes us feel like a powerless CHILD. It is the reason we believe we are abandoned, bad, rejected, and shamed. It is the reason we feel mad, bad, and sad. It is the reason neither life, nor death, makes sense.

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The Love Language of Affirmation

Did you lack affirmation as a child?   Do you constantly need to be recognized as being worthy, loved, or needed?  Do you become insecure when your spouse or friend does not respond to your needs right away?

Understand that if a male friend is not noticing and responding to your needs, it is often not that he is deliberately choosing not to affirm and comfort you, but because he is simply obliviously unaware of your needs.  Know that it takes men four times longer to notice subtle social cues than it does women.

Consider that if you constantly need to be affirmed and recognized, you might have a belief that was engraved in your mind by the father-of-lies: that you are insignificant…disposable…lacking in quality.

FOR HE SATISFIES THE THIRSTY AND FILLS THE HUNGRY WITH GOOD THINGS
(Psalm 107:9).

 I bless you to seek your affirmation from God.  Turn your beliefs of insignificance over to Him, for He satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.

HOW GREAT IS THE LOVE THE FATHER HAS LAVISHED ON US, THAT WE SHOULD BE CALLED CHILDREN OF GOD!
(1 John 3:1).

Do not attack your spouse or your male friend for the belief that you do not count.  This might trigger a belief of rejection in him.  The result would be two people living in pain, practicing their sinful defense patterns on each other. Instead, invite your Perfect Father to lavish His Love on your feelings of insignificance.

THE LORD WILL GUIDE YOU ALWAYS; HE WILL SATISFY YOUR NEEDS IN A SUN-SCORCHED LAND AND WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR FRAME. YOU WILL BE LIKE A WELL-WATERED GARDEN, LIKE A SPRING WHOSE WATERS NEVER FAIL
(Isaiah 58:11).

Do you feel worthy, loved, and needed? If not, do you turn to constant affirmation to get these needs met?

Know that affirmation from people will not get your needs met. Invite God to satisfy your need for significance.  Allow Him to tell you that you count…that you carry weight…that you matter. Then you will be affirmed.

PRAYER: Most High, I admit that I do not feel worthy, loved, and needed; therefore, I turn this matter over to You, Lord. Satisfy my never-ending thirst for affirmation with Your Love, O God. Then, I will be affirmed.

Maintain an Awareness

Temptations are all about WORDS…and what we DO with these WORDS.

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May You Know the True God

WHEN I WAS A CHILD, I TALKED LIKE A CHILD, I THOUGHT LIKE A CHILD, I REASONED LIKE A CHILD. WHEN I BECAME A MAN, I PUT CHILDISH WAYS BEHIND ME. NOW WE SEE BUT A POOR REFLECTION AS IN A MIRROR; THEN WE SHALL SEE FACE TO FACE. NOW I KNOW IN PART; THEN I SHALL KNOW FULLY, EVEN AS I AM FULLY KNOWN
(1 Corinthians 13:11-12).

As a child, your brain recorded every experience since the time of birth very accurately.  Not only were the facts of an experience permanently recorded, but also the interpretations that were concluded at the time of the event, as well as the emotions that were bound to the interpretations.

Realize that your childhood conclusions were sold under sin to the father-of-lies, and these false beliefs distorted your perception of God, even as an adult.

Because of these childhood conclusions, you probably wonder, “Am I good enough for God if I was not even good enough for my own mom during childhood?  Would God banish me as my dad did, because of the mistake I made as a child?  Would God keep me at arm’s length like my friend did when I did not please him as a little girl/boy?  Does God even notice me, or am I invisible to Him, too?”

NOW THIS IS ETERNAL LIFE: THAT THEY MAY KNOW YOU, THE ONLY TRUE GOD, AND JESUS CHRIST, WHOM YOU HAVE SENT
(John 17:3).

Accept that God is not like your childhood dad.  God is not like your childhood mom.  God is not like your childhood friends.  Obtain Truth for your childhood conclusions from the Lord Jesus, so you may get to know the true God for who He really is.

WE KNOW ALSO THAT THE SON OF GOD HAS COME AND HAS GIVEN US UNDERSTANDING, SO THAT WE MAY KNOW HIM WHO IS TRUE. AND WE ARE IN HIM WHO IS TRUE—EVEN IN HIS SON JESUS CHRIST. HE IS THE TRUE GOD AND ETERNAL LIFE
(1 John 5:20).

Have you been comparing God to your childhood dad, mom, or friends? Then, you do not really know Him. Instead, you are seeing Him through the eyes of your childhood conclusions, which have been sold under sin to the father-of-lies.

Do you want to know God? Surrender your childhood conclusions to the Lord Jesus, just the way you perceive them. Then, you may get to know God fully, even as you are fully known by Him.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, I submit my childhood conclusions to You, moment-by-moment, so I may receive understanding about You, the Perfect Father, and the Holy Spirit.

Maintain an Awareness

The Bible calls it the OLD MAN. It makes us feel like a powerless CHILD. It is the reason we believe we are abandoned, bad, rejected, and shamed. It is the reason we feel mad, bad, and sad. It is the reason neither life, nor death, makes sense.

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Be Quick to Listen

MY DEAR BROTHERS, TAKE NOTE OF THIS: EVERYONE SHOULD BE QUICK TO LISTEN, SLOW TO SPEAK AND SLOW TO BECOME ANGRY
(James 1:19).

I encourage you to think of someone you know who is hurting deeply right now.  Know that you can be of great comfort to your friend by being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.

Be quick to listen. Listen carefully. Listen observantly. Listen with patience. Listen, so you may understand her problem. Be attentive to your friend’s heart.  Allow her to feel…to perceive…to experience.  Her emotions will help her to connect with her heart, her pain, and with God.

BUT THE COUNSELOR, THE HOLY SPIRIT, WHOM THE FATHER WILL SEND IN MY NAME, WILL TEACH YOU ALL THINGS
(John 14:26).

Be slow to speak.  Know that it is not your advice that counts, your perception that is needed, your understanding that is important, but the advice of God, the Counselor.  Encourage your friend to talk to you, so she can hear what her own heart is trying to tell her. Then, lead her to God, the Counselor. He will tell her what she needs to know.

BE…SLOW TO BECOME ANGRY, FOR MAN’S ANGER DOES NOT BRING ABOUT THE RIGHTEOUS LIFE THAT GOD DESIRES
(James 1:19, 20).

Be slow to become angry.  Be careful that your own pain does not get in the way and cause you to become angry when you listen to another’s pain.  It is not about your pain when you are helping someone else.  Surrender your own heart-ache to God, the Counselor, so you may be a better listener to your friend.

How do you respond to another’s pain? Are you reluctant to listen…to be still…to understand? Are you quick to react…to speak…to give advice?

Be quick to listen.  Be slow to speak.  Be slow to react to another’s pain and become angry.  Instead, help your friend connect with God and hear His Perspective, so she may be comforted.

PRAYER: Most High, remind me, daily, that You have sent the Counselor to teach us all things, at all times. Remind me to not get in the way when someone confides in me, but to listen and understand with the purpose of directing everyone to the Counselor.

Maintain an Awareness

Our relationship with God is not just one-sided—us praying to God. When we pray, God also needs to talk to us…and He WANTS to.

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He Sets You High Upon a Rock

BE JOYFUL IN HOPE, PATIENT IN AFFLICTION, FAITHFUL IN PRAYER
(Romans 12:12).

Beloved, be patient in your affliction.  Do not turn to damaging ways, trying frantically to hide from your pain. Distraction does not bring lasting relief, and wearing a mask only makes matters worse.  Instead, come to Me. Let Me set you safely upon a high Rock. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to overcome

FOR IN THE DAY OF TROUBLE HE WILL KEEP ME SAFE IN HIS DWELLING; HE WILL HIDE ME IN THE SHELTER OF HIS TABERNACLE AND SET ME HIGH UPON A ROCK
(Psalm 27:5).

Beautiful One, be patient in your suffering: when someone accuses you…when someone leaves you…when someone fails you.  Do not run to destructive ways, trying to relieve your pain instantly.  Instead, run to Me. Let My Name be a strong Tower to you. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to overcome.

THE NAME OF THE LORD IS A STRONG TOWER; THE RIGHTEOUS RUN TO IT AND ARE SAFE
(Proverbs 18:10).

Precious Child, be patient during temptation—when someone displays his own weakness.  Do not turn to unwholesome ways, trying to still your pain by blaming it on the other person’s faults.  Instead, own your own pain and take responsibility for it. Let Me pull you to safety under My Wings. Remember, you have a choice. Choose to overcome.

HE WILL COVER YOU WITH HIS FEATHERS, AND UNDER HIS WINGS YOU WILL FIND REFUGE; HIS FAITHFULNESS WILL BE YOUR SHIELD AND RAMPART
(Psalm 91:4).

Are you patient during affliction, or do you turn to distraction and destruction to find relief?

Know that God expects us to overcome affliction, because “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life” (2 Peter 1:3). Furthermore, “to him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne” (Revelations 3:21 NKJV). Remember, you have a choice. Instead of running from your pain, hiding from it, or blaming it on others, you can choose to overcome…today.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, teach me to be patient in affliction, so I may overcome.

Maintain an Awareness

Truth comes to us when we speak to God…and when God speaks to us.

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Be Patient…Joyful…Faithful

BE…PATIENT IN AFFLICTION
(Romans 12:12).

I bless you to be patient in affliction…adversity…distress.  Wait patiently for God to deliver you from your torment.  Do not become impatient and turn to evil, harmful ways, or destruction, for “those who suffer he delivers in their suffering; he speaks to them in their affliction(Job 36:15).

BE…FAITHFUL IN PRAYER
(Romans 12:12).

I bless you to be faithful in prayer, during your affliction.  Call upon the God of all Comfort instead of wallowing in your sadness.  Appeal to the God who takes care of your yesterdays, todays, and tomorrows, instead of drowning in anxiety.  Cry out to the God whose Power is sufficient, instead of being destroyed by your own weakness.  When you feel faint, whisper these words, in faith: “Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and He hears my voice” (Psalm 55:17).

BE JOYFUL IN HOPE
(Romans 12:12).

I bless you to be joyful in Hope, because Hope will not disappoint you.  Expect God’s Answer with confidence.  Await God’s Solution with anticipation.  Look forward to God’s Provision with gladness.  Therefore, “may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13).

THEN YOUR FATHER, WHO SEES WHAT IS DONE IN SECRET, WILL REWARD YOU
(Matthew 6:6).

How do you respond to affliction…adversity…distress? Are you patient, waiting for God to speak to you and deliver you? Are you faithful in prayer, believing that God hears your voice? Are you joyful in Hope, trusting that God will do what He promised?

When the Lord Jesus was on earth, He was perfectly patient in affliction, faithful in prayer, and joyful in Hope. God sent the Spirit of Jesus to live in your heart. Let Him teach you these virtues from the inside out.

PRAYER: Thank you, Perfect Father, that You sent the Spirit of Your Son into my heart to teach me to be patient in affliction, faithful in prayer, and joyful in Hope.  How good to know that I do not have to master these skills by my own strength, but that I can allow You to live these qualities in me and through me.

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Capture that the human mind loves to reason WITHOUT the Holy Spirit.

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Focus on the Route of Escape God Has Provided

NO TEMPTATION HAS SEIZED YOU EXCEPT WHAT IS COMMON TO MAN. AND GOD IS FAITHFUL; HE WILL NOT LET YOU BE TEMPTED BEYOND WHAT YOU CAN BEAR. BUT WHEN YOU ARE TEMPTED, HE WILL ALSO PROVIDE A WAY OUT SO THAT YOU CAN STAND UP UNDER IT
(1 Corinthians 10:13).

What temptation has seized you?  Was your brother hateful, spiteful, or unfaithful to you…and now you feel rejected?  Take heed! Do not take the escape route of quarreling.  Did your co-worker blame her failure on you…and now you feel slighted?  Be careful! Do not take the escape route of defending yourself.  Has a friend stopped returning your phone calls…and now you feel abandoned?  Stop! Do not take the escape route of pursuing her until she is brought down.

SUCH A HIGH PRIEST MEETS OUR NEED—ONE WHO IS HOLY, BLAMELESS, PURE, SET APART FROM SINNERS, EXALTED ABOVE THE HEAVENS.  UNLIKE THE OTHER HIGH PRIESTS, HE DOES NOT NEED TO OFFER SACRIFICES DAY AFTER DAY, FIRST FOR HIS OWN SINS, AND THEN FOR THE SINS OF THE PEOPLE.  HE SACRIFICED FOR THEIR SINS ONCE FOR ALL WHEN HE OFFERED HIMSELF
(Hebrews 7:26-27).

Beautiful One, capture that I, Jesus, am your High Priest who came to meet your needs. I sacrificed My Self for you to become your Route of Escape.  I have become God’s Way Out for you.

Therefore, accept the Love that I, your Savior, hold out to you, instead of focusing on the temptation.  Receive the Hope that I, your High Priest, have on hand for you, instead of focusing on your own escape routes.  Secure the Truth that I, your Redeemer, have ready for you, instead of focusing on your own way out.

THE LORD WILL FIGHT FOR YOU; YOU NEED ONLY TO BE STILL
(Exodus 14:14).

What temptation has seized you during this last week? How did it make you feel? What route of escape have you chosen to make your heart feel better?

I bless you to focus on God’s way out—Jesus, who sacrificed Himself once for all. If you turn your pain over to Him, He will provide a way out, so you can stand up under it.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, thank you that You always have a way out for me, even when I feel rejected, slighted, or abandoned. Remind me, daily, not to take my own way out when I feel bad, mad, or sad, but to surrender my broken heart to You, and wait for You to provide the right way out.

Maintain an Awareness

Many of these untrue childhood conclusions grouped together to raise a spirit of defilement in us—the OLD MAN mentality that duped us into thinking we were doomed and damned, for life.

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You Will Trample the Great Lion

BE SELF-CONTROLLED AND ALERT. YOUR ENEMY THE DEVIL PROWLS AROUND LIKE A ROARING LION LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO DEVOUR
(1 Peter 5:8).

The world we live in is divided into the World of Truth and the World of Deception. Imagine with me an imaginary line on the ground from left to right that reaches into infinity, both ways.  On this side of the line is the World of Deception. On the other side is the World of Truth.

You and I start out in the World of Deception, where each and every one of our interpretations has been given over to the governance of deception. We would love to enter into the World of Truth, but there is no way we could cross the line into the Truth, because it is guarded by a fierce lion that paces back and forth, guarding the Truth with his own life.

However, this is not the end of the story.  There is someone else also standing on the line that separates the World of Truth from the World of Deception.  His name is Jesus. Jesus beckons you to come closer to witness a demonstration of the fierceness of the roaring lion that is guarding the Truth.  He pulls a blowtorch the size of a cannon forward, and aims it at the lion.  Suddenly a huge flame leaps from the cannon and the lion’s mane blows in the force of the flame, but the lion is not affected by the flame…at all.

I AM THE GATE; WHOEVER ENTERS THROUGH ME WILL BE SAVED. THEY WILL COME IN AND GO OUT, AND FIND PASTURE
(John 10:9).

But then, Jesus shows you something else that you did not notice before—He is holding the fierce lion by a chain!  Tenderly, Jesus explains, “I am the gate. If you surrender your own understanding to Me, you will enter through Me into the World of Truth. You will trample the great lion and find pasture. Because you love Me, I will rescue you. I will protect you, for you acknowledge My Name. I am in control of the lion.”

‘YOU WILL TREAD UPON THE LION AND THE COBRA; YOU WILL TRAMPLE THE GREAT LION AND THE SERPENT.  BECAUSE HE LOVES ME,’ SAYS THE LORD, ‘I WILL RESCUE HIM; I WILL PROTECT HIM, FOR HE ACKNOWLEDGES MY NAME’
(Psalm 91:13-14).

In which world do YOU live, most of the time: in the World of Truth…or the World of Deception? How do you know?

Do not try to fight the great lion by yourself.  He is a spirit and cannot even be destroyed by fire.  Instead, surrender your interpretations to Jesus.  He will make sure you cross the line and enter the World of Truth safely, through Him.

PRAYER: Lord Jesus, I want to live in the Truth…always. Therefore, I yield my daily interpretations…my assumptions…my conclusions to You. Redeem them, Lord, and redeem me from the World of Deception, so I may live in the World of Truth.

Maintain an Awareness

Since the beginning of our lives, the OLD MAN beliefs of abandonment, shame, condemnation, and rejection have been firmly planted in our minds and hearts by the father-of-lies.

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When You Do Not Feel Loved

Did you know that your Perfect Father loves you even as He loves His Son, Jesus?  There is no other Love in existence like that of your Everlasting Father’s.  There is no other Love with which you can compare your Perfect Father’s Love for you. Why not? Because He made you! He delights in you, because YOU ARE HIS CREATION!

 I HAVE GIVEN THEM THE GLORY THAT YOU GAVE ME, THAT THEY MAY BE ONE AS WE ARE ONE: I IN THEM AND YOU IN ME. MAY THEY BE BROUGHT TO COMPLETE UNITY TO LET THE WORLD KNOW THAT YOU SENT ME AND HAVE LOVED THEM EVEN AS YOU HAVE LOVED ME
(John 17:22-23).

 Precious Child, understand that it is when you do not feel loved that you are prone to fall into sinful behavior patterns, especially if you do not feel loved by Me, your Perfect Father.  It is when you feel abandoned by Me that you fall into hopelessness.  It is when you feel rejected by Me that you fall into bitterness.  It is when you feel that you are not good enough for Me that you fall into shame.  It is My Love you crave the most: My personal attention…My reassuring confirmation…My healing affirmation.

Child, you need to understand that I made you. I formed you in your mother’s womb. I created you. You were not created by your father, or your mother, but by Me, the Perfect Father, the Creator of Heaven and earth. Why would I abandon My own creation? How could I reject what I have made? How could I be ashamed of My own Workmanship? Therefore, become rooted and established in My Love, filled to the measure of all My Fullness, as you grasp how wide and long and high and deep My Love is for you.

AND I PRAY THAT YOU, BEING ROOTED AND ESTABLISHED IN LOVE, MAY HAVE POWER, TOGETHER WITH ALL THE SAINTS, TO GRASP HOW WIDE AND LONG AND HIGH AND DEEP IS THE LOVE OF CHRIST, AND TO KNOW THIS LOVE THAT SURPASSES KNOWLEDGE—THAT YOU MAY BE FILLED TO THE MEASURE OF ALL THE FULLNESS OF GOD
(Ephesians 3:17-19).

Do you feel you are not good enough or worthy to be loved?

Engage in an intimate relationship with your Everlasting Father. Get to know Him. Get to know His personal Love for you that surpasses your understanding. That is all you really need, for the cares of this world—the rejection…the abandonment…the shame…the condemnation—will all fade in the Light of your Perfect Father’s Love for you.

PRAYER: Most High, how good it is to hear about Your everlasting Love for me. How encouraged I am to know that Your Love surpasses all my knowledge. Perfect Father, I long to be filled to the measure of Fullness with Your Love, so that my soul might be satisfied, and my pain of abandonment, rejection, condemnation, and shame might be healed.

 

Maintain an Awareness

The goal of the father-of-lies is to fill us with a system of beliefs, so that we would fill our Selves with another system of beliefs that would correct the first system of beliefs.

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