Know that your struggle is not against the people or the circumstances in your life, but against the spiritual forces of evil—against the OLD MAN beliefs of abandonment, shame, condemnation, and rejection.
The Two Counsels
Maintain an Awareness
So, yes, the deepest urge in human nature seems to be the desire to be important–to matter. But, it is not the PRINCIPLE of wanting to be important that is wrong; instead, it is the way we adapt or the means we adopt to meet this most urgent desire of our hearts.
The Two Counsels